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Boosting Your Self-Esteem

May 25, 2016


Make a list of several things that you like about yourself.

For example:

I have a nice smile.  I am patient.  I am loving to my family.

Take your time and aim for 50 things, even if it takes weeks this do so.

Keep this list and look at a different section of it every day.

If something difficult is coming up read it all to show yourself that you have a lot to offer.

Set yourself a challenge

Start small – walk a block a day for instance.  Then when you achieve it accept praise from others.

Then bigger challenges – take a night class.

Do it, achieve it, accept the praise for it.

Be Assertive

Not aggressive, but set clear boundaries.

It means you value yourself and others can communicate with mutual respect.

Being assertive means keeping your body language open and confident and expressing your feelings if you are upset.

You need to learn to say “no” to unreasonable requests or express the need for more time if you need it.

Friends and family

Identify those around you that encourage the negative feelings and opinions you hold.

You must stop this by being more assertive and by limiting contact with them.

Spend time with people who will not criticize you but will listen to your feelings and help you to take action.


Balance work and home life.

If you’re out of work for a long time volunteer so you don’t lose your confidence.


Learning a language, dancing, painting, writing, wherever your interests lie.

Try something a little challenging.

It will boost your confidence when you succeed.


Regular exercise, sleep, mindfulness and healthy diet all contribute to the improvement of a persons self image.

10 tips to keep you going:

It can be quite helpful to refer to these throughout the day to keep you positive and to boost your self-esteem.

  • Don’t compare yourself to other people
  • Don’t put yourself down
  • Get into the habit of thinking and saying positive things about yourself to yourself
  • Accept compliments
  • Use self help books and websites to help you change your beliefs
  • Spend time with positive supportive people
  • Acknowledge your positive qualities and things you are good at
  • Be assertive, don’t allow people to treat you with a lack of respect
  • Be helpful and considerate to others
  • Engage in work and hobbies that you enjoy

And finally, no one is happy all the time.

Having high self-esteem does not mean you will always feel confident about work or have successful relationships.

However, good emotional health and positive self-esteem are strong predictors of happiness.

If your core belief about yourself is mainly positive you may still associate with some of these behaviours but your ability to cope with them will be much better.

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